#14: ‘Should-ing’ All Over Yourself? How To Get What You Really Want!

May 16, 2024

Are you ignoring what you WANT, in favour of what you think you ‘should’ do?

Today, I’m talking about one powerful little word which is sneaking its way into your vocabulary. And once I point it out to my clients, they can’t unsee it. In fact, I they start pulling themselves up on it!

Can you guess what this word is? It’s SHOULD!

I see it in my clients who’ve followed a conventional career path or climbed the corporate ladder, without ever considering what they really want. I’ve also experienced it myself after years of chasing external success, overachievement — and spending the better part of my career working towards what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.

These are classic examples of what I call ‘should-ing’ all over yourself. Overlooking what you WANT, for what you think you ‘should’ do. Or putting yourself under pressure to ‘be’ a certain way, rather than ‘who’ you truly are.

It also shows up when you have a tendency to please others and put everyone else’s priorities or opinions ahead of your own. As a result, you struggle to make the right decisions, create the changes or reach the goals you desire.

Are YOU should-ing all over yourself?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing 6 practical steps to help you break this habit — once and for all. You’ll find out how to make the shift from what you think you ‘should’ do and finally start creating the career you want!

You’ll learn:

  • The REAL reason you struggle to say no, set boundaries or want to please others — and why awareness is the first step to changing it
  • A powerful tool you need to know to shift your beliefs, behaviours and start owning your decisions
  • Practical tips to help you prioritise — and the ONE question you must ask when you have two conflicting ‘shoulds’
  • How having clarity on what you DO want and taking intentional action towards it is key to letting go of what you believe you ‘should’ do
  • The ‘danger’ words to look out for — and how to remove this limiting language so you can go after what you really WANT

So hit play now and let’s dive in!

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